When one person in a relationship decides to stop drinking alcohol, it can quietly, and sometimes dramatically, change the dynamic between partners. In this honest and compassionate conversation on The Relationship Breakthrough Show with Matt and Rebeca, as a Positive Mindset and Confidence Coach Zena Hall explores what happens when drinking stops, but life, and relationships continue.

The episode speaks directly to anyone navigating sobriety within a relationship, particularly when one partner is choosing to take a break from alcohol and the other is not. I share personal insight and professional expertise on the emotional, psychological and relational shifts that can occur when alcohol is removed from the equation. From subtle changes in communication to deeper questions around identity, boundaries and self-trust, this conversation sheds light on experiences that are often felt but rarely discussed.

Together, Zena and Matt explore the pressure that can arise when routines change, how unspoken expectations can surface, and why alcohol often plays a much bigger role in relationships than we realise.   We discuss how choosing not to drink can challenge existing dynamics, from social habits and connection to conflict avoidance and emotional regulation, and how couples can navigate these changes with greater awareness and compassion.

A key theme of this episode is self-permission: giving yourself permission to make choices that support your wellbeing, even when they disrupt the status quo. Zena talks about the importance of staying grounded in your “why,” learning to tolerate discomfort without reverting to old coping mechanisms, and communicating needs clearly without defensiveness or guilt. This is especially powerful for those who worry about being judged, misunderstood, or seen as “difficult” when they stop drinking.

The conversation also addresses the silent emotional labour that can fall on the person who stops drinking, the expectation to reassure others, manage reactions, or minimise their own needs to keep the peace. Zena offers practical insight into how to hold boundaries kindly, rebuild confidence, and remain emotionally connected without compromising personal values.

This episode will resonate deeply if you are:

• Taking a break from alcohol while your partner continues to drink
• Questioning how sobriety is affecting your relationship
• Learning to communicate more honestly without alcohol as a buffer
• Navigating identity shifts, confidence, and emotional resilience
• Exploring what alcohol freedom means for connection and self-growth
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Whether you are sober curious, alcohol-free, or simply reflecting on the role alcohol plays in your relationship, this conversation offers reassurance, clarity and perspective. It reminds us that growth can feel uncomfortable, but it also opens the door to deeper authenticity, stronger communication, and more conscious connection.

You might also like to read Zena's Alcohol Change UK Blog that is part of the #dryjanuary 2026 campaign HERE IS THE LINK